Comments on: The Ugly Duckling http://www.tajder.com/archives/158 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:22:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Nesi http://www.tajder.com/archives/158/comment-page-1#comment-133 Nesi Tue, 26 Aug 2008 16:12:50 +0000 http://www.tajder.com/archives/158#comment-133 Uuupppsss! Nice old gentleman! This story reminds me of one that happened to me, just that that one happened several times!! I have a second cousin and she used to be (I guess she still is) very beautiful. Well, each time I met her, the guy or guys going with me said “oh, your cousin is so beautiful, you don’t look alike at all!” ouch! love, Nesi PS. Even if you are not fishing for compliments... Your mother is still very beautiful and in my opinion you look exactly like her! Uuupppsss! Nice old gentleman!
This story reminds me of one that happened to me, just that that one happened several times!! I have a second cousin and she used to be (I guess she still is) very beautiful. Well, each time I met her, the guy or guys going with me said “oh, your cousin is so beautiful, you don’t look alike at all!” ouch!
love,
Nesi
PS. Even if you are not fishing for compliments… Your mother is still very beautiful and in my opinion you look exactly like her!

]]> By: Oliver http://www.tajder.com/archives/158/comment-page-1#comment-132 Oliver Tue, 26 Aug 2008 16:00:31 +0000 http://www.tajder.com/archives/158#comment-132 Thoughts for you (if I might be so bold): 1. He would never have said that your father looks good, only gay men do that. 2. He would have never said that you are beautiful because in today's world that would be sexual harassment. 3. Since he considers himself an old rag he does not consider a famous women as your mother to be interested in him anymore. By acknowledging that he is old, he can only dream of the time when he admired her in the past. 4. He simply refers to you looking like your dad because he has no sexual references to you. He is simply to old and/or decent to do that. Also see Point 2. This is why I basically stopped making compliments to people. Chances are that whatever you say is perceived as an offensive is just too high. Thoughts for you (if I might be so bold):

1. He would never have said that your father looks good, only gay men do that.

2. He would have never said that you are beautiful because in today’s world that would be sexual harassment.

3. Since he considers himself an old rag he does not consider a famous women as your mother to be interested in him anymore. By acknowledging that he is old, he can only dream of the time when he admired her in the past.

4. He simply refers to you looking like your dad because he has no sexual references to you. He is simply to old and/or decent to do that. Also see Point 2.

This is why I basically stopped making compliments to people. Chances are that whatever you say is perceived as an offensive is just too high.

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