Not to start a year with a comment on Middle East (which I would really like to do), here a more positive topic. Or is it?
Beyonce’s new hit “Single Girls (If You Like it Put a Ring On It)” is constantly repeated on gotv (Austrian MTV) so I already started singing (and dancing) along. I am only wondering if this is a message for the girls or the boys?
Christmas present from my gay neighbour Marcus: a book called “Suche Mann zum Kinderkriegen (Searching for a Man for Babies)”. Subtitle: “Why men disappear when it gets serious.” It is cute, but maybe not so fitting.
Yesterday, I passed by a shop with cake decorations. A whole window is dedicated to wedding cakes. Looking at all that kitsch is always amazing but when I looked at it yesterday, I started screaming. Photo is attached.
I am considering writing a book with a subtitle “Why women disappear when it gets serious.” And I think that the shop should start producing decorations with grooms dragging brides to the altar. Things are changing.
I rather thought that the song from last year “I kissed a girl and I like it” was something to sing along.
Getting back to your comment, I think the biggest barrier to weddings are over-romanticised princesses that plan the wedding for 2 years+ and then continue to put pressure on their daughter when they are 7 already to find a prince (since mom did not really make it), and the loop continues. They overplan their daughter’s wedding, overcriticise the husband and overreact in general.
Hysteria in a box. That’s what men are afraid of.
although the caveman style has its merits when it comes to dealing with women, i doubt that the public would appreciate it, so dressing the window with a subject like grooms dragging brides to the altar might backfire. but on the other hand there is prolly more to it according to these lines:
“what I deserve
Is a man that makes me, then takes me
And delivers me to destiny, to infinity and beyond
Pull me into your arms
Say I’m the one you own
If you don’t, you’ll be alone
And like a ghost I’ll be gone
”
so why then do women disappear when it gets serious? what does that mean anyway? I myself wouldn’t mind having babies with you or even marrying you i guess, but does that mean it has to be serious? like in “dead serious”? isn’t it better to come from a point like the following one and see what happens? ->
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XPPH-UzsAgM
Well, as soon as there are kids, it is serious – at least for women. Once you had a kid, you are responsible for a human being for the rest of your life. And that is serious. How many cases you know in which kids stayed with their dad after a divorce? And with today’s divorce rates, you are simply forced to think about what will happen if you have to raise a kid by yourself.
Maybe this is why today, many women also disappear when it gets serious. It used to be only (some) men, now the whole generation (specifically in west Europe) is suffering from the Peter Pan Syndrome. We are dead scared of growing up, getting “serious”, becoming responsible for more then our own lives. We are also too rational and most of us are ruined by the system of “to have is a ‘must have’”. We think we need it all: a “career”, enough money to go skiing, dinners, shopping, fitness, parties, cool apartments. And to have it all + a family, you need loads of money. And then there are all those choices and possibilities! With the internet communities, you don’t even have to leave the house anymore – you just log in and you have a choice of hundreds of most fantastic people in the world (yes, we know they are only fantastic in 0′s and 1′s). And with all that choice, you should be sincerely sure of “the one”?
I just think we are a big mess….
But great consumers! And quiet. What can be be better for the system?