Sometimes, it is fantastic to meet people you haven’t seen for many, many years, especially if they had an important role in your life. Because they show you how much you have – or have not – changed during this time.
Few days ago, I met an “affair” I haven’t seen in (something like) 10 years. I really liked him a lot back then, and he – he just preformed an expensive mating ritual, had sex with me and disappeared (kind of).
He hasn’t changed. Back then, I liked guys who looked like young English lords. Extremely stylish, sleek and classic. Men who were never young.
I have changed. Back then, I was what in Austria you would call a “tussi” – very stylish and always fun. We met in the most posh bar in Vienna.
This time, it couldn’t have been more different – I asked him to accompany me to a discussion at the university. He was so out of place there, it was cute. And he must have been wondering what the hell happened to me – which sane woman would exchange Manolo’s for trainers and posh bars for uni benches.
The change I went through really fascinates me and I often wonder how many people go through a big “personality” change. Especially within a shor time period.
Still, I must admit sometimes wonder if I like the person I have become….
I like the person you have become! And believe me the “tussi” is in some way still there… That’s the interesting thing about you; you are an explosive mix of “neo intellectual nerd” and “tussi”. You are full of contradictions and that is so charming! I love you!! ;o)
Sorry but I dissent: You have not changed!
I do not think people change in a fundamental way. I think they rather show different sides of themselves more or less as time passes.
And if you do not like what you are – what will you do? Try to change who you are or try to change what you like? I guess that finally you have to like the people who like you. If you attract people you do not like, then you have a problem. As long as your ways attract the people who like you and that you like, you are a happy person. Every gap between what you are and what you like is then maybe more a task to get even with reality than changing anything.