We are taking the stars off the sky, one by one. And then we wonder why it is getting so dark in here.
Archive for March, 2008
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Monday, March 31st, 2008Mama and Ana
Thursday, March 27th, 2008My mother and I stopped in front of a window of an antiques shop. There was an elegant art deco mirror hanging in the window. „Oh, we are so beautiful!“, my mum loudly said, her voice full of delight. I looked up. The ebony frame framed two identical figures: same size, same black hair, same black coats. Same alabaster skin, same smile, same spark in black eyes. For a moment, it confused me. But then it filled me with joy. Next to us a lady was standing. She was my mom’s age, red haired, bigger than us, wearing a grey coat. As she heard what my mum said, she turned and looked at us smiling at our twins in the mirror. She smiled “I didn’t even dare to look at myself“ she said. I could hear a note of envy in her voice. My mum turned towards her beaming with joy „Oh, I normally don’t like looking at myself either, but with my daughter next to me, it is something totally different.“ That second, it became clear to me what a huge influence the person on our side has on our attitude toward ourselves. And for a moment, I felt that I gave my mother a very special gift: a touch of eternity.
“To silicone or not to silicone” or “To have it all or not to have it all”
Wednesday, March 26th, 2008In their book “Weißbuch Frauen Schwarzbuch Männer”, Sibille Hamann & Eva Linsinger are complaining that, while in the 70’s women were wildly protesting against beauty dictatorship, today we have quietly accepted it. Female body, they claim, has become a modifiable object which reflects our attitude towards life: “The body that a woman is carrying around herself is not anymore a question of destiny, but an obvious proof of her approach to life. Each detail is a result of a conscious decision: to lie on the sofa, rather then lift weights; not to have a wrinkle Botoxed away, or to leave the fat where it is.”
I couldn’t agree more: God, do I wish silicone is not an option and “to silicone or not to silicone” wouldn’t exist as a dilemma.
But let’s get serious: that same “dictatorship of choice” goes for all other aspects in women’s life. Not only our bodies, but also our whole lives have become modifiable objects reflecting our conscious decisions: to be educated or not; to earn money, rather than have kids; to be single, rather than married; to be a “housewife” rather than have a career. We do have the benefit of free choice – but in the same time the curse of feeling like a failure if we chose not to have it all.
When did art become public masturbation?
Tuesday, March 25th, 2008Why is “art” without a message, invention, aesthetics or amusement being supported? Is it because it cannot be dangerous in any way?
I went to a modern dance performance. It wasn’t just any performance; a famous French choreographer danced in Tanzquartier,
Joke of the Month
Monday, March 24th, 2008Putin goes to a restaurant with Medvedev and orders a steak. The waiter asks, “And what about the vegetable?” Putin answers, “The vegetable will have steak too.”
Swan Lake Philosophy
Sunday, March 23rd, 2008This ballerina felt very philosophical in her ballet class yesterday…. I realized that the three basic rules of ballet can also be applied to life outside of
1. In order to keep your balance, think forward, not upward
2. You need to go down in order to jump up
3. Think up when you’re going down – otherwise you’ll crash
Happy Easter!
The Playmate Inside
Saturday, March 22nd, 2008A bunny story to get into Easter mood…..
I watched an interview with two Playmates after a photo shooting for Playboy. They were platinum blond, tanned, giggly and talked in high voices. They reminded me of exotic birds I watched on BBC documentaries. The interviewer asked what a woman can do to feel more sexy. Two identical Barbie dolls started singing in one voice “Put some self tanner on your skin… do your make-up. Do your hair. Because when you feel better about yourself inside, you look more attractive on the outside.” I found this answer hilarious. I thought to myself “Ooooh, now I know why I’ll never become a Playmate: my skin, my face and my hair are not my inside!”
Vive la différence!
Saturday, March 29th, 2008In yesterday’s discussion about the roles of men and women on Okto TV, my female counterpart proudly announced that she has both male and female aspects and she can jump from one to the other, depending on the situation. I argued. I am always a woman – no matter if I am heading a business meeting, practicing the art of tai-chi sword, watching K1 fighting or kicking a man out of my apartment after sex. I am very much against women trying to overtake male characteristics in order to “win” in men’s world. We should rather proudly use our femininity and characteristics which men so not have to complement men, rather then compete them.
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