Archive for November, 2008

Buy a Baby Day?

Sunday, November 30th, 2008

Hey, did you guys know that in Netherlands a couple bought a baby in internet (!?). For something between €5000-10,000. If you consider the fact that a cheap Hermés bag costs around €3,000 than babies are a bargain. Or they already have Christmas baby sales in Netherlands.

I wonder if Buy Nothing Day also implies to buying babies. In internet.

29.11.2008 is a Buy Nothing Day

Saturday, November 29th, 2008

Hmmm…..

People are scared of the crisis so they stopped shopping. Logically. If you are not sure if you’ll still have a job next month, you just don’t go out and buy a new DVD player. But now, the economists are screaming at people to go out and shop in order to help their economies survive the crisis. Well, how about this – the economies are in crisis because they are based on an outdated system which just doesn’t work anymore. The whole society is based on earning the money to sped it on stuff nobody needs. How about we started changing this? How about the governments increased their spending instead of asking people to do that? How about we start spending on stuff that will benefit everybody? On schools, hospitals, better infrastructure, green energy solutions, R&D? Yes, I know –  I am touching into some socialist ideas again….

 
I wanted to puke when I heard that “Please, shop!” plead on TV.

Because:

1. There is only so much we can consume. Already now, every western household have 2 TV sets, 2 cars and closets full of “Made in China” stuff.

2. Earth is in peril: How much do the production, the shipping and disposal of stuff we actually don’t need pollute our planet?

3. We are forgetting the real things in life: This greed for material things turns our attention away from important things in life. It turns us into robots. We work too much just to spend the hard earned money on stuff we don’t need. Shopping became a way of filling time, of psycho therapy and what is even worse, even a way of socializing.

‘If people started to make the connection between spending and how much they had to work, and realised that if they spent less, they’d worry less, then we’d have a significant reduction in mental illness in this country.’ Said psychiatrist and author Oliver James

4. Our kids are turning into robots: What about the new generation? When I was a kid, each Mars bar and each Hello Kitty pencil was a little celebration. I had to use imagination to build a house for my Barbie (once I even had 2 Barbies at a time. Today, girls have 20+). For today’s kids, nothing is special – everything exists, everything is pre-created, everything is in abundance. They know that all you actually need to have it all is – money.

 

So what am I doing?

I cut my excessive consumption one year ago, as I quit my job. And I was surprised how much I was able to cut -  and how painless it actually was. I learned how less we really need and that the whole consumption thing is actually a vicious circle – the more you buy, the more you need. If I bought a copy of Vogue, I immediately found a sweater I “really needed”. When buying the sweater, I found a dress I couldn’t resist. For the dress, I needed a new pair of boots. And then I bought the newest mascara which needed a special eye make up removal. Buying this, I found a lip gloss I really liked. And once I bought all of that, I received a catalogue with more stuff I didn’t even know I needed. And then I had to show all that clothes and make up – so that they have a raison d’être. Which meant going into bars and restaurants and clubs. And more consumption… of food, drinks, drugs, taxies.

It was just incredible how, once you exit this circle, all those artificial needs start disappearing, one by one. The simple trick is not to give the temptation a chance – stop window shopping, stop buying magazines, and stop meeting your friends for shopping. Meet them for a coffee or a visit to a museum. Unfortunately, I have to admit that, like with a real addiction, once you stop the regular dose of new stuff, you do go through a crisis. Yes, sometimes you feel the hole where unpacked shopping bags used to be.

I just ordered a book “I’m not buying it” by a writer who stopped shopping for a year – I am curious to hear other people experiences. And I joined the Buy Nothing Day.

Anybody else?

http://www.buynothingday.co.uk/

More Tour

Monday, November 24th, 2008

Split: Ivica Prtenjaca, writer and my publisher’s PR

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Sibenik: Ivo Bresan, a living legend of Croatian literature. It was an honor discussing my book with this man.

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The Tour

Monday, November 24th, 2008

The book tour was a fantastic but tiring experience. A friend, a great American writer who just finished his tour told me “I think I’d rather have eye surgery on a helicopter than do another book tour.” No, it’s not that bad – we are just a bit exhausted when it’s over. It takes a lot of energy to sit in front of the audience, always with a new moderator who is a very clever person and discuss things like emancipation, crisis of a system, confusion of a generation and your private experiences. Then come the interviews….. But it is extremely rewarding meeting people who are interested in what you do, write and think. I had some great questions from the audience. So here a big THANK YOU to everybody who came and supported me on this great adventure.

And here a task to my readers and friends:

In Sibenik, I was interviewed for the national television by a young and very charming reporter. He obviously contemplated about his questions because he started the interview with a great one: “So, what happens when Barbie finds the vibrator?”

I have to admit I was so confused by the question that I asked them to stop shooting and give me a moment to think. Not very cool, isn’t it?

I still don’t have the answer….

This is why I was thinking: The readers of this blog seem to be clever, witty and fun people, so why not ask you guys to help find a good answer?

So, tell me:

What happens when Barbie finds the vibrator?

Pula: Zdenka Viskovic, a writer who understands my book better than I do. And Vlado Mandic, a journalist from Glas Istre.

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Zagreb: Zdravko Zima, a literary critic and a fantastic mind. And Sandra Mlakar, my ediotr.

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Get out!

Thursday, November 20th, 2008

“Nothing in the world is more common than unsuccessful people with talent – leave the house before you find something worth staying in for.”

BANKSY

Thoughts behind a curtain

Saturday, November 15th, 2008

There is an old, grey, shabby house in my street in Zagreb. Like most houses in Zagreb, this one is from the golden era of socialism. It hasn’t been renovatet or repaired since it was built in late 50′s. Somewhere on the 2nd or 3rd floor, there is an appartment with old wooden shades covering half of a window. The rest of the window is covered by synthetic, lacy curtains long turned yellow.

Every day in the afternoon, a man is standing behind those shades and curtains and commenting on the newest political and social developments in Croatia. His voice is strong and firm and he sounds like a professional speaker.

Every day, he is giving the world his excellent, true and very critical analysis. If this was a movie, people would gather under his window and listen and discuss and start a change. But this is not a movie, and everybody just passes by thinking “Oh God, again that old lunatic!” and stays busy with their own life.

So all those thoughts – and guts to share them – will stay burried behind a dusty, sythetic curtain forever.

I love Pula

Thursday, November 13th, 2008

My book tour started in Pula, the ancient Roman city on the north of the Croatian coast. The presentation was fantastic – and completely different from my presentation in Zagreb in May, as the book just came out. In Zagreb, I was asked only about the parties, the men and shopping. In Pula, my book was presented by Ms Zdenka Viskovic-Vukic, a poet and president of Pula Film Festival. Zdenka understood what the book really is about and for one hour, we talked about the pain of growing up under the pressure of today’s deformed society, about trying to find real values in this mass of artificial values, about the process of putting it all out and shedding your skin – in order to find the true YOU. The audience was fantastic. I hope that the rest will run just as good.

Thank you, Zdenka. And thank you, Pula.

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Monday, November 10th, 2008

I am starting my little Croatian book tour today in Pula (then Zagreb, Split and Sibenik) so please have patience with me. I’m sure it will be very inspiring ….

It’s a tomato! And now I’ve got love in my tummy.

Friday, November 7th, 2008

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Congratulations to Change!

Wednesday, November 5th, 2008

Obama won and I am celebrating. This vicotry is not so much about Obama – it is about the collective conscious of what used to be the most powerful nation in the world. The fact that he won with so much lead showed that people are fed of the state their nation was in and angry of the stiff, greedy, cruel class that was leading it for the past eight years.

The real question now is: how much will really change? In one week, when the euphoria is over, the country will still be involved in two unfair wars it cannot really get out of, it will still have a strong business lobby ruling it from the shadows, it will still be economically ruined, it will still be based on values which helped turn capitalism into a beast it just proved to be, bringing the world to the crash we are experiencing right now. I still hear the loud “boos” coming from the crowd when McCain compared increasing taxes for rich to socialism. This is still a country of people who believe in self reliance, that it is their duty to make it on their own, no matter how many sacrifices have to be made, and that having “made” it, is enough of a contribution to their society. They still believe that contributing a part of their self-made wealth is “socialism” and bad. Not everybody should be doing fine, only those who “deserved” it. To return to human values and to start flourishing again, this whole nation has to start thinking of itself as a collective, not as a bunch of individuals. Can Obama make that change?

USA is still the good old USA and Obama is a big refreshment and an opportunity but not a magician. What is important though is that he gave people a belief that change can happen, and that the power is in their hands, not in W’s. He returned african-americans their long lost dream and their dignity. He gave the rest of the world a hope that a different, better, fairer USA is possible. But what is most important, he gave his nation a feeling of liberation from old constraints. Let’s hope that this victory will also help the intellectuals to feel free and empowered to try and make a deeper change so urgently necessary in this country.

There is one thing I have to admit I am worried about. Security. Not the US security. Obama’s security. We all know what happened to many of the US’s great mavericks and ambassadors of positive change. I really hope he has the best personal protection a person can have. That he will go to Dallas and that he is not susceptible to “Monica” kind of traps.

There is one thing that struck me as I just watched the reactions from the streets on CNN. People are celebrating the first african-american president. For his skin color. Nobody was mentioning the ideas he is standing for. I know how much those people have suffered and I know how unfair the system still is to them. I know the race still is a big issue. But I do not think that the fact that Obama’s skin color is most important, and the only aspect that should be celebrated. This could only awake old hatreds. And after all, he is not black-black. He is black-white. Or white-black. He is everything. What is so much more important – he is a symbol of ideological change in his country.

Speaking of looks… I watched a documentary on both candidates last night and I was surprised to see how handsome John McCain was when he was young. And then I realised that both Obama and his wife are good looking people. Yes, we know that Joe Biden is very handsome and Sarah is a beauty queen. I wondered what does this mean. Does this say something about the US politics? Something about the country in general? Or is it a universal thing? But when you look at leading politicians of other countries, you don’t see much beautiful people. Still, Austria’s both increasingly powerful right wing parties are headed by what you could call handsome men. Slovenia’s new minister president is an ex-model….. Are looks becoming increasingly important, also in politics?

I’m off to watch more of that euphoria. It does feel good.