Posts Tagged ‘Feminism’

Are we becoming prude?

Wednesday, December 3rd, 2008

I just read an article by a Croatian writer saying that paparazzi pictures showing Kate Moss’ underpants as she is exiting a car prove how our society is becoming more and more prude. She claims that we watch paparazzi pictures of drunk, half naked or messed up celebrities because we are shocked about their behaviour. I see it opposite. We look at paparazzi pics not because they shock us but because they calm us. The world of celebrities went so far to become a parallel, virtual universe. Through plastic surgery, private fitness trainers and Photoshop, the celebrities look too perfect, even plastic. Never in the history have actors and celebrities earned such amounts of money. And lately, they also manage to have perfect families. The pictures of Kate Moss’ underwear and drunk Britney help us remember (or realise) that they too are only human. So first one part of media earns by making them seem über-human, then the other part of media earns by showing that they are human after all. That makes double profit. And we are the idiots who gladly pay for all of that. And then we also pay for plastic surgery and designer clothes, hoping that we too can look the part…

And as for the prude, just look at a few videos on MTV or a few ads in magazines. You can also go to galleries and see what sells as art. No, we are far from becoming prude.

Bambi or Wolf?

Monday, October 27th, 2008

God, I survived a walk in the woods with a heterosexual man!

I normally go for my weekly wood magic with my gay neighbour (and friend) Patrick. And it is always plain beautiful: In spring, we are excited about the little pink and white buds coming out of the wet and dark earth, later in the year we pluck Bärlauch (ramson or bear’s garlic) and discuss the best Bärlauch recipes. In summer, we lie on a little chequered blanket and bask in the sun. And in the fall, we search for mushrooms in all colours and sizes. Like we did last weekend in the Little Red Riding Hood wood – it really was like a scene from a Disney cartoon.

Well, today was the first time in a long, long time that I went into a wood with a hetero man. And no, it wasn’t all about the big bad wolf eating poor Little Red Riding Hood behind a bush. First, we got lost – my walker was absolutely sure he knew his way around as he is mountain biking through this wood every week. Then, we ended up climbing a VERY high hill. And then we were even more lost, soon sliding down a very steep slope covered in slippery red leafs. Please note: I was wearing little golden adidas shoes. So once we managed to get off the slope (finally), I ended up sinking in mud – not only did my little golden shoes disappear in black mud but so did my cool jeans, all the way up to my knees. Thank god the hetero man on my side was big and strong and immediately fished me out. I really love woods, but I swear to God, I just wanted to get out of that one.

What is it about gay men?  How can they make any wood into a Bambi paradise? Why are butterflies and rabbits and flowers dancing in the sun whenever a gay man enters a wood? I mean, when you go into a wood with a gay man, you could as well put on your thinnest stilettos and you would be ok…. I don’t know. It’s…magic. Gay magic. Or am I simply a fag hag?

 
I don’t get it.

But since writing about woods (again), here my favourite wood joke:

“Aha! Little Red Riding Hood!” says Big Bad Wolf, upon finding the girl in the woods. “Now I’m going to take off your little read cape, lift up your little red skirt, pull down your little red panties and fuck your brains out!”

“Oh no, you’re not, Mr. Wolf,” Red Riding Hood retorts, pulling a pistol out of her basket and drawing a bead on the wolf. “You’re going to eat me just like the book says!”

 

Maybe that is it! In the woods, girls either want to meet Bambi or Wolf! Not sink in mud.

Afghan health plan

Friday, August 22nd, 2008

In Afghanistan, women are still being put to jail after they have been raped. Afghan law punishes any form of sex outside of marriage and makes no difference between an adulteress and a victim. Statistics say that 87% of women after the age of 7 experience some kind of harassment. 60% of marriages are forced on women, 57% of brides are younger than 16.

Ghulam Ali, highly positioned officer responsible for the security in the country explained that the law which punishes victims of rape is right because “in Afghanistan, sexual encounters outside of marriage mean breaking the Muslim law, no matter if the person accepted or was forced”. He personally believes this law is good because “there are many diseases which spread because of illegal sexual relationships.”

I was just wondering about the outcomes of the US liberation of that country……  Taliban are as strong as ever, poppy fields are in full bloom and women are being punished for being raped. Democracy? Freedom? Human rights?

Also, I’d like to learn more about the difference of STDs transmitted between wed partners and non-wed partners. But for this, I’d probably have to attend an Afghan school. Hey, maybe Mr. Ghulam found cure for AIDS – just lock all women into prisons!

“New Man” or Are we all becoming “Everything”?

Wednesday, August 20th, 2008

I am on a desert island, it is hot and beautiful and the only internet access is over a telephone line. Plus I am very busy swimming, sleeping, eating and reading. All together – the brain melted and is currently working on “the island mode”, so writing a regular blog is kind of a serious challenge. Please, bare with me through those “tough” times which will last till the end of September.Reading Croatian newspapers is a crucial part of the island life but not really inspiring. Still few days ago, I came across an article about the “New Man”. Yes, just another article about how poor men are today because they are expected to be sensible and tough in the same time. Well, if you ask me, they are in the exactly same position like new women who are expected to be educated, have a career, look beautiful, stay eternally young, work hard, be independent and in the same time be dedicated wives and mothers. I thought about this strange situation in which men are expected to be like women and women are expected to be like men and then the part of my brain that didn’t yet drown in the Adriatic Sea started thinking beyond the gender topic – actually, aren’t we are all expected to become EVERYTHING? Not only are women becoming men and men women, we are becoming citizens of a few countries simultaneously, we are multilingual, we are either switching careers or have parallel careers. But look at this: we also becoming both eternal children and eternal seniors. We are prolonging our childhood and the state of singlehood to our late thirties. Even when we become parents (and partners), we still allow ourselves toys, flexibility and adventures. (Interesting book on this topic: Pascal Bruckner “The Temptation of Innosence”). In the same time, the brutality of turbo capitalism is pushing us into (professional) responsibility, reliability and hard work typical for experienced adults from the very beginning of our work life – forcing us to become (professional) “old people” already in our early twenties. (Here, I am touching the topic of Richard Senett’s “The Corrosion of Character: The Personal Consequences of Work in the New Capitalism”, another highly recommendable book about how capitalism is influencing our character, turning us into endlessly flexible beings (the German translation of the title is “Der Flexible Mensch”). So little by little, starting with the “New Man” I landed on the aliens as we know them from SF: highly developed beings for which the difference between old/ young, male/female, Austrian/Croatian no more exists. But ugh, I have to admit that I really do prefer the “Old Man” to E.T…..

Those Days

Tuesday, July 22nd, 2008

A new TV ad for Always Ultra. Soft music, animated flowers blooming and dancing and a soft female voice telling us about “those days”. I hate talking about “those days” and I hate calling period “those days”. And I hate making such a big fuss about “those days”. Anyway, the whole ad is an ode to “those days” and how this wonderful company is trying to make “those (horrible) days” nicer for you. And then she says something interesting: those days mean that everything is alright. I never thought about it that way. But as I heard this, I started thinking about it. I started thinking about the fact that a woman is doomed to bleed to know that everything is alright. And I started wondering if we tend to apply this rule to other aspects of our lives – because many women need to “bleed” from time to time in order to recognise that everything is alright. Do men ever need to bleed to know everything is alright?

Albanian Virgins

Tuesday, July 1st, 2008

Oliver has sent me a very interesting article from Herald Tribune about Albanian virgins. Don’t laugh. For centuries, those women who decided to become men only had to make a resolution, cut their hair and put some trousers on. And – not have sex! Which turns celibacy into the key, meaning they believe it is the female sexuality that makes woman intor a woman. Not her physical or mental characteristics.

So basically, it was possible to achieve equality even in that brutal and very patriarchal environment. These virgins are treated like men. They manage their families like men, they kill like men and rule like men. They hang out with men.

And I was just thinking how we could apply this without any problems. Nothing would change. We anyway wear our hair short, only wear jeans and trousers. And have almost no sex. Aaaargh! We ARE men!!!!!! 

Here’s the link. Thank you Oliver.

http://www.iht.com/articles/2008/06/23/europe/virgins.php

Juno – and now: the reality

Monday, June 23rd, 2008

17 girls from a high-school Gloucester in the state of Massachusetts, all younger then 16, are pregnant.  The girls arranged this “group activity” – they all decided to get pregnant together. So now this city of 30,000 is wondering what is going on and where this baby boom is coming from. Well, if anbody went to cinema once in past six months they would know - the Oscar winning movie “Juno” couldn’t be missed.

Are young people really so alienated from life that they simply copy everything they see on big screen, no matter how serious the consequences are? Do they really blindly believe the things they see on the big screen? Maybe I should finally put on those red shoes and hit the yellow road…..

Sex Sells. No – available women sell

Sunday, June 22nd, 2008

Just writing the article about sexism in advertising. Actually never thought about this topic until I was asked to do that. Here two ads which are so incredible, they need no comment…

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Bordeaux Wisdom

Monday, June 16th, 2008

Someting I learned yesterday from an old wine-maker from Bordeaux:

A great son-in-law is not necessarily a great husband.

A great husband is not necessarily a great lover.

A great lover is almost never a great husband.

Yeap, feminism again…..

Thursday, June 5th, 2008

Why should I write clever stuff when other people already wrote it?
So for all interested in Alpha-Girls or Post-Feminism or 3rg Generation Feminism (in Germany and in German) – here an article with a lot of interesting information:

http://www.heise.de/tp/r4/artikel/28/28047/1.html

I believe that this women vs. men thing is – in our society – outdated and is bringing us nowhere. We are fighting a finished war. We should move beyond feminism and urgently move in direction of humanism. The moment humans become human again, for which they need to be given time, space and energy (read not be forced to scarify all of that to the system and in the same time be overwhelmed by media/entertainment industry), and thus become capable of again embracing all their natural drives and needs, dreams, flaws, differences – all discrimination (like lower salaries), conflicts and problems between women and men will disappear. Yes, they call it social feminism.

Oliver, thank you for the link.